"President Brigham Young (1801–77) once said: 'A child loves the smiles of its mother, but hates her frowns. I tell the mothers not to allow the children to indulge in evils, but at the same time to treat them with mildness.' He further stated, 'Bring up your children in the love and fear of the Lord; study their dispositions and their temperaments, and deal with them accordingly, never allowing yourself to correct them in the heat of passion; teach them to love you rather than to fear you.' Of course, there is need for discipline with families. But discipline with severity, discipline with cruelty, inevitably leads not to correction but rather to resentment and bitterness. It cures nothing and only aggravates the problem. It is self-defeating. The Lord, in setting forth the spirit of governance in His Church, has also set forth the spirit of governance in the home in these great words of revelation:
'No power or influence can or ought to be maintained … , only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned; …
'Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;
'That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death” (D&C 121:41, 43–44
'No power or influence can or ought to be maintained … , only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned; …
'Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;
'That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death” (D&C 121:41, 43–44
"Behold your little ones, and teach them. I need not remind you that your example will do more than anything else in impressing upon their minds a pattern of life.
"The story is told that in ancient Rome a group of women were, with vanity, showing their jewels one to another. Among them was Cornelia, the mother of two boys. One of the women said to her, “And where are your jewels?” To which Cornelia responded, pointing to her sons, “These are my jewels.” Under her tutelage and walking after the virtues of her life, they grew to become Gaius and Tiberius Gracchus—the Gracchi, as they were called—two of the most persuasive and effective reformers in Roman history. For as long as they are remembered and spoken of, the mother who reared them after the manner of her own life will be remembered and spoken of with praise also.
Here's the link for the talk if you want to read the whole thing. It was really great! Isn't my "little one" so precious?!
2 comments:
sounds like you had a great enrichment night, ours is tomorrow and it is a stake event (we have one every year at the end of november) it'll be interesting to find out what it will be. the theme for your was great, i'm sure you all were sobbing(when is there never any crying at a RS function?!)
Goodness, our RS isn't for weeks, and I am dying to go since I didn't get to go last year because -get this- they didn't have babysitting! OH WELL-- Sarah, I have to say that your tree looks cute! What a fun FHE. We are going to put ours up this weekend, I think!! Hopefully so. Sorry to hear you were so grouchy! Believe me, that's common in your state, that last trimester is the WORST. I kind of go into hibernation mode and don't talk to anyone for about a month, I guess that's how I earned the nickname "crankmaster". ♥
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